I won! I won! I won!

I have nevereverever won anything in myentirelife...so imagine my surprise when I clicked on Weddingbee and saw my name as the winner in the contest for favor boxes from I need a favor from Kate! During my all out squeal-fest this morning, I even woke the Little Bear, who proclaimed "Momma, is everything okay? I heard wild pigs outside my window". Oops.

We will be getting the pyramid shaped box from the photo above, but in this print:
Here are my favor inspiration pics....

I am envisioning them being similar to the larger photo on the plate, but without the branch, obviously. I've already purchased the little nests at Michael's, along with some moss. I'm hoping to find a few glittery birds during my annual Christmas ornament shopping extravaganza to add to the nests. I also am going to order dark chocolate Cadbury speckled eggs online, since they are only available in stores over the Easter holiday. I realize that jordan almonds are more traditional, but honestly, I don't know of one person, other than myself, who actually likes to eat them. And who can resist chocolate, right? So what do you think?
Oh, and I know it says we won 50 boxes, and are only having 18 guests, so we've decided to hand deliver the exciting news to all our friends who we were not able to host at the actual event. We're going to give them all one of our nest favors along with the announcement. Good idea...or not?
I couldn't have won a more perfect prize! I was having such a hard time finding a gift box that would allow me to wrap our little bird favors without having to lay the birds down on their sides...which of course, once opened, would just make them look like a little nest filled with dead birds, not love birds. Sooooo not romantic. At. All.

Thankyouthankyouthankyou to Weddingbee and to I Need a Favor from Kate. Kiss Kiss Hug Hug.
And I do want to apologize for the lack of posts lately. Between the Thanksgiving holiday and working long hours, there really hasn't been all that much going on that anyone would consider "blog worthy". We did meet with the second photographer, and are anxiously awaiting his quote before we make any final decisions regarding pics.



Now that the food has settled I can take a minute to sit down and ramble about a few things. What a great day this Thanksgiving was, family, friends and of course the two best things to ever happen to me, yes Delilah and the big kid. I can't remember the last time I enjoyed a holiday as much as I did this Thanksgiving, it gave a whole new meaning to being thankful. My wonderful wife to be cooked up a fantastic dinner, yes I did do my part, that was stay out of her way and make last minute trips to the store. Of course I ate WAY to much food but then again who didn't, how's a guy suppose to say no to such a fantastic feast?

Visiting with family has become much more important to me over the years. I have a great niece and great nephew that are in their early twenties that mean the world to me, I treasure every minute I get to spend with them. I will explain the Great niece and Great nephew thing later. I have also realized just how much I really missed Delilah's family over the years that we were apart, from what I can gather they missed me just as much, what a great feeling.

I hope everyone had a Thanksgiving as wonderful as ours was, I have so much to be thankful, what a lucky man I really am.


Happy Thanksgiving!

Today I am most grateful for...

The love of my family.
They may not always be the most affectionate bunch, but they've ALWAYS been there through thick and thin. There are no doubts in my mind that no matter what the struggle or celebration, they will all be there by my side to comfort me or cheer me on. This past year has been a very trying one, and without the love and support of my family, I know for a fact, I would not be the happy (and somewhat emotional, financially & physically stable) gal I am today.

The most amazing, sweetest
and affectionate little boy...EVER!
Had I been able to personally hand-pick the teeny angel who was to become my son, I could not have chosen one more perfect. He is spirited, smart, kind, generous, creative, funny...the list goes on and on. I thank my lucky stars on a daily basis for sending him to me. He's been not only my baby, my little boy and my best friend but now and I watch him learn and grow, I get glimpses of the man he is going to become. I am so proud and honored to be his maman.

True Love
How in the world am I suppose to be able to find the words to express how grateful and thankful I am to the universe for bringing my Bob back into my life? There will never, evereverever be a proper term to define how unbelievably happy, safe, content and loved he makes me feel. I'm so blessed to have him in my life, not only as my confidant, friend, lover, and fiance...but, as the most amazing father and husband to a little boy and his mother, who once believed that they were not worthy of the kind of fairy tale life they are currently living.

Oh...I almost forgot.
And tiny puppies with bad breath.


So. um. yeah. wow.....Totally random thoughts.

For once in my life, I am at a loss for words. Not much going on around here, that's for sure. Well, other than the regular 'ol day to day workworkwork, home, parenting stuff. But, I'm not really complaining. It's a nice break. I do apologize for the lack of posts and photos lately though. I'll make it up to you next week 'kay?

Wedding planning is at quite a stand still, and with the Thanksgiving holiday upon us, it looks like there won't be time for much other than stuffing our faces full of yummy goodness and visiting with family and friends. It's going to be torture to not spill the beans or slip up regarding the wedding planning during conversation. Wish us luck! Bob has already started inviting people by word of mouth, and it got me all flustered and thinking that the sooner they know about the "party" the more time they will have to figure out the surprise ahead of time...totally ridiculous, I know, but I can't help it. Have I mentioned that I'm a worry-wart?!?

We do have a meeting with a local photographer (not the one I spoke of earlier) on Monday, for the sake of looking through his portfolio, getting a quote and discussing our Plan B details. I'm still sold on our first choice photographer, but this one definitely has more pro's than cons as well and because he is local, just may be a better fit. Only time and budget will tell. Both of our choices have equally beautiful online portfolios. Just as soon as we make a decision, I'll definitely be posting a link.

I'm also been thinking a lot about hair. Mostly because mine is a complete and utter mess right now and in serious need of a cut and blowout. Granted, I look nothing like the lovely Masuimi Max, but she and I share the same hairstyle and hair color in this pic. I pretty much do the side bang with alice band/scarf/barrette on a daily basis. I've been growing out my uber-short Bettie Page bangs and the length is becoming out of control. Not to mention my hair is pin straight and won't hold a curl to save my life. I think I just may pay a visit to my stylist for some advice. Here are a few photos of hairstyles I've been coveting.
What do you all think? Should I go for something a bit more fresh and modern, or stick with my usual look? Keep it simple, or glam it up?


Work it girl!

Whew! What a weekend! Where does all this time go?!? I swear, all day yesterday I thought it was Saturday and then some party pooper had to go and remind me that it was in fact Sunday and another work week was upon us. UGH! I barely had time to relax or have any fun at all and it's already Monday.

I think a lot of my Monday blues this morning are stemming from the fact that I've taken on a second (or actually, technically 3rd) job in order to bring in a few extra dollars for the wedding and I'm simply exhausted. I had a big wake-up call about a month ago and realized that if we didn't start bringing in some extra cash and saving our pennies soon, there would be no wedding...or at least not the wedding we are envisioning.

Now, I realize that you are probably thinking that it really doesn't cost all that much to basically have 20 or so people out to dinner, but add the cost of food and drinks, plus cake, officiant, transportation, photos, rings and attire and the budget gets blown rather quickly. Hence, a part-time job in retail to combat the quick rising cost of this whole soiree. Not to mention the holidays are quickly approaching, Bob and I are hosting Thanksgiving dinner at the tree house, as well as Christmas gifts for LB and the rest of the family, and throwing a cocktail party for New Years. Cha-ching! My Bob has a t-shirt in the closet that boldly states "I'm having an out of money experience". Right now, that's exactly how I am feeling. And I know it will all work out in the end, as it always does, but it doesn't take away the fact that I am a wee bit stressed about it.

In planning our budget, or lack of, we're having quite the time trying to figure out where our priorities lay. Should we spend more on food and drink, or is photography more important? Should a bulk of our budget be spent on rings and attire, or opt to save some cash for our honeymoon? As I type this, I honestly don't know. How is everyone else coming up with a budget and whats on your "must have" list?


Take it off! Take it all off...

Okay, so I'm feeling a little frisky this morning. TeeHeeHee!
In an effort to get healthier and of course, look like a bombshell pin-up on our wedding day, I've been dieting. Oh, how I hate that word, but I'm using it for lack of a better term. For the last, oh, about 6 weeks or so, I've been steadily losing weight by counting calories and paying a little closer attention to where those calories are coming from. Upping the protein, dropping a bit of carb. It's been a pleasant little surprise every Friday to step on the scale and watch that number go down, down, down. The smaller pant size is quite the ego boost as well.

For the last 2 weeks...nothing. Not even one little ounce lost. What's up with that?!?! I've been a good girl. I haven't indulged, at all. Well, other than 1 piece of birthday cake, but you know, it's like wedding cake. Calorie free, right?!?

The only thing I can think of is that since I took a second job, I am on my feet more and might be retaining water? Or, since I am not home in the evenings to cook for myself and my boys, that I have been eating more processed foods like Lean Cuisine, Smart Ones and Healthy Choice, all of which might contain some extra sodium?! It's frustrating to say the least. I'm seriously losing motivation, which really sucks. I suppose it may just be a dreaded plateau, and I will have to wait it out, but in the meantime, I'm asking for suggestions as to what I can do to shake up my metabolism a bit and start losing again. Got any super-secret weight loss advice or tips for me? Anyone? Please. Pretty please?

I'm hoping to take measurements for my dress sometime the beginning of next month, so Whirling Turban can get started on my scrumptious dress. Cross your fingers I can drop one more size by then. I've also got to get my booty out there and find a corset ASAP. One that will give me some killer curves, yet be smooth enough to wear under my dress without a lot of bumps and lumps showing through. I'm thinking of trying these on for size...

Does anyone have any experience with either of them?

The first one is from www.whatkatiedid.com and is basically a waist cincher. I'd still be able to wear my own strapless bra, which is a definite plus. I'm just not sure how bulky this style of corset is, as I've never worn one quite like it.

The second pic is a Goddess long line underwire bra. It appears quite slimming and even comes in my size. It's a steal on www.amazon.com right now. I think I may just order it anyway. If it doesn't work, I can always return it, I suppose.

Can you recommend another that I may be overlooking? Keep in mind, that I am 5'7", a very curvy size 10 (hoping to be an 8), and quite "Big of Boob" (36DD). If I go the full corset route, I'll definitely be seeking out something with an underwire. HELP!


I like cake...

no mistake, but baby if you insist I'll cut out the cake, just for your sake
Baby! c'mon and knock me a kiss ...

So many yummy decisions to be made. Will we have red velvet or carrot? Mini cakes, cupcakes or something more traditional? I've been meaning to call the pastry chef at our little jazz grille to go over what can or cannot be done, but in the meantime, I've got an ever growing collection of delicious inspiration photos. I'm also awaiting the arrival of our cutie cake topper. I cannot wait to show you all! We're still undecided as to the specifics of the cake, but maybe some of these pics will inspire your wedding day dessert.
My other obsession for today is kissy pictures. I just adore them! I don't know how they do it, but there are so many talented photographers out there who manage to magically capture the passion of that one moment and freeze it in time forever. And speaking of photographers, I think we may have found ours. I don't want to get overly excited just yet, as there are details to be worked out, but I'm over-the-moon happy with our choice. I've been doing a little happy dance ever since she and I got off the phone. She definitely "gets" us and our vision of what we are hoping to capture on film.


Just singin' in the rain...

Call me crazy, but am I nuts to wish for rain on our wedding day? I know that one cannot accurately predict the weather forcast this far in advance, but a girl can dream right? Just for fun, I looked up the average rainfall in our little town for the month of February and found that historically it's our rainiest time of year averaging just over 4".

I've always been a lover of overcast, dreary, wet and drizzling days. It doesn't get much better than being all bundled up in your coziest coat, strolling the streets and nuggling up with Bob on one arm and a hot cup of coffee/tea/cocoa in the other. Pure bliss.

Can't you just imagine us all parading through downtown all dressed up, carrying umbrellas? In my mind, rain creates such a romantic mood. And, I've heard it's lucky to have rain on your wedding day.


Feeling like a teenager

That would explain my night last night. It was time for Delilah and I to have a grown ups night out so a week ago I surprised her with tickets to a band that pays tribute to the late, great Johnny Cash. Now what better way to start the night off than to show up with my dates favorites flowers. When I walked in the house, flowers in hand, I was left speechless at just how beautiful Delilah looked. WOW, am I a lucky man or what? After putting my tongue back in my mouth we headed for a big kids night on the town. What a great show, I really did expect a younger crowd but it was so refreshing seeing couples who have been married longer than I've been alive having the time of there life. Yes I was saying to myself " That's going to be us." We decided to end the night with a drink at the local watering hole, by this time to my amazement it was well after 9:00 my normal bedtime, now I'm really felling like a teenager. All in all the night was great, my date looked stunning and we got to be kids again.


Three Cheers for SHOE PORN!!!

So, I've come across yet another attire dilemma, and am needing a bit of fashion advice.

I love my dress. I love it more and more with every glance. The glow of the silk, the lines of the bodice, the twirl of the skirt, the shelf bust...pure perfection, I tell you. I even love the model wearing my dress. Isn't she lovely, with her finger waves, collar bones of steel and luminous skin? What I do not love is that her shoes are so match-matchy. The style is cute and all, but don't you think it looks a bit too bridemaid-esque to have dyed-to-match shoes? Please correct me me if I am wrong. And no offence to anyone who is dying their bridesmaids shoes.

In an effort to make this look my very own, I've decided to add a soft colored crinoline...maybe a steel blue/platinum grey, champagne ivory, or mocha brown. I am thinking that it might be nice to have shoes and a handbag in the alternate color as well. What do you think? Here are a few of my inspiration pics, as well as another gratuitous shot of my gorgeous dress...
Champagne... Shoes and clutch from Hollywould at Shoes.com

Platinum... Shoes Kenneth Cole and clutch from Franchi at Zappos.com

Chocolate... Shoes and clutch from Ann Taylor at Ann Taylor.com

Keep in mind, that my bouquet has that deep, rich chocolate brown velvet ribbon around the handle. It's easily switched out however for another in a different color...all of which are incorporated into the actual bouquet itself somewhere. No biggie, not difficult to do.

I'm also considering wearing a sexy pair of nude colored , seamed, vintage thigh-hi stockings with garters, so a closed back shoe would be in order. Unless, I fell head over heels (teeheehee) with a pair of slingbacks, of course.

We've also found 2 different suit jackets for Bob. A dark brown corduroy that has a definite vintage line and feel, as well as a classic steel grey Ralph Lauren number made from the most divine fabric. I'm sure you'll be hearing all about both of them soon, as well as seeing a few pics. We're picturing him pairing it with a crisp ivory button-down shirt, no tie, pants to match and either his Dr. Martens or a cool pair of wingtips.

So honestly girls, give it to me straight. Should I bring in another color, or stick with the blush pink?

And for the record, this pair of Louboutin's I came across at I Heart Luxe has had me swooning for weeks, but they go against my whole matchy-matchy arguement, and Bob might choke if he ever found out how much they cost. I simply couldn't sign off without sharing them. Wipe the drool from your chin. It's mussing up your keyboard. :)


I'm not very photogenic.

So whyohwhyohwhy am I so obsessed with how we are going to manage to take a few pretty wedding pictures?

Bob and I are still at a loss as to how we are going to manage to work a photographer into our teeny-tiny guest list mix. Not to mention, the small talent pool we are dealing with here in the sticks. Figuring out photography is becoming quite the challenge. So far, the plan is to take a few professional photos in the late afternoon at our fantasy, fairy tree house, then head over to the party where we will have to rely on our own guests to bring cameras, or we won't have any pics of the actual event. We do have one friend who happens to be a fantastic photographer, but he didn't make the invitation cut...unless of course we can come up with cash in the budget to add another couple. But, we also think he may feel that if he is the only one snapping away when the surprise actually happens, that we only invited him so we could get some great shots. Poo. There I go over-analyzing again.

In the meantime, I have an ever growing list of photos we'd like to have. I absolutely adore detail shots, rather than posed portraits. Here are a few of our inspiration pics (most courtesy of flickr, with the exception of the first pic, which came from offbeatbride.com)...
How awesome is this rockin, tattooed officiant?!? Since ours isn't lacking in ink, I thought this would be a swell shot to add to our "must take" list. The ring exchange photo is lovely...another definite, don't you think?!
And who can resist those "stolen moment" pics?! When perusing so many wedding blogs and websites, the photos that always stand out in my mind are the ones that look as if they accidentally were captured on film. Très romantique!
We also want to get a great ring shot. There are oodles of creative wedding ring pictures out there to use for inspiration. These are a bit more traditional, but if you're looking for something a tad more on the quirky side, check out The Image is Found. Truly AMAZING ring shots!
Oh how I wish I could find a full-length shot of this pose. I think it's adorable! And since Bob and I will, of course be wearing some fantabulous footwear I've added this pic to our list. Does anyone know where I can find a similar picture with a "leg up" kiss? I've KNOW I've seen loads of them, but wouldn't ya know it, just as soon as I try to search, I cannot find but one?!?

While on the great photo hunt of 2007, I fell in love with Alacoque and Warren's wedding! Get a load of her veil. Soooo fetching! I wonder where she got it? Did she DIY? Would it be tacky of me to contact her? I came across their photographer Lucy Leonardi's website on accident and have been in awe just browsing her galleries.
Can you believe this is just a smidgen of the crazy amount of photos I have been collecting?!? I just wish that when I started, I had made notes of the fabulous photographer and wedding I borrowed from. Hopefully, the photography gods will take pity on me and I won't have to remove any of these gorgeous photos. I promise from now on to take better notes!

Oh, and if you haven't figured it out just yet, that last post was from my beloved Bob. I think I may have created a monster...he's already trying to come up with his next post! I tried to tell him this whole blogging thing was a bit addictive, but I don't think he quite believed me until he jumped in himself. Maybe we'll have to come up with a little code to give him his own blog style. Think I can convince him to post in blue text? It might make it easier to figure out who's doing all the talking around here. ;)


So I thought maybe I would take a little time and get in on the action that the love of my life has started. For starters, what a great girl, I often ask myself " What did I do to deserve such a loving person", not once but yes as you who are keeping track know, twice. I have to admit that I am very excited about our little plan, what sneaky little devils we are. Do I sound a little sappy? I have every right to be, I am back with the woman that I'm madly in love with and I plan on spending the rest of my life with her. What man in their right mind wouldn't get a little sappy in these circumstances? Not only is she the most wonderful women in the world but as you can see she's quite crafty also.

Like all weddings it seems like it's so far away but in reality it's right around the corner, even though it seems like a simple dinner there is still a lot of planning. With the two of us putting our heads together to plan all this, with no outside influences, it will turn out just the way she and I want it. Isn't that how it should be anyways? What a ride, and what a fun ride it is!


Happy, Happy, Happy!

Happy Halloween Everyone!
This day has already started off on a busy note. I suppose that's what you get when you are raising a 5-year old boy and it's his favorite holiday of the year! We woke up before sunrise just to pack up all the day's necessities. LB is going to be in the annual Halloween parade this afternoon as well as participating in a party at Kindergarten. Needless to say, there were numerous trips to the car to haul all the goodies he needed for school. Now that's he's finally been dropped off safe and sound, I can take a breather and post an update! At least until it's Trick or Treating time...then it all begins again. Lucky me. haha!

Happy Birthday!
I cannot let today go by without mentioning that right this second, as I type this, one of my dearest and bestest friends is giving birth to her new baby girl. So...
I can wait to pinch on her! After so many long years of wishing and hoping and praying for a miracle, today is the day the world is blessed with the new little princess' presence.
And happy, happy me, won the "guess the baby birthday" pool, so I do believe I'm about $20 richer. WhooHoo! Even more reason for celebrating!

Happy to be done!
And, as promised, here are the updated bouquet pics! I just know you were all chomping at the bit to get a look, right?!
You know, when looking at it in person, I feel like it's done. It looks finished. But, the photos still make it look a little bare. I'm toying with the idea of pulling out the picks and using a small floral cone in order to make it smaller and fuller. Am I just plum crazy? What do you all think? Should I add more stems? Maybe a few small beaded flowers? Or should I just leave well enough alone? Oh, and the brooch is just for show. I think I'm going to swap it out with another one, but I wanted to get an idea of what it was going to look like.


Guess what?!?

It's finally official...I have a dress!

After much distress over where, how and how much, I am happy to report I will not be tying the knot in my birthday suit. Although, it is a suprise birthday party wedding, so it would fit the occassion. Okay...bad joke. Sorry.

And the winner is...
Unfortunately for me, the loverly Alan Hannah "Cannes" dress was a tad outside my budget, not to mention virtually impossible to find here in the states. So, I did what any other determined bride-to-be would do...I called a seamstress. Oh, but not just any seamstress, mind you. I called upon the wonders that are Whirling Turban. They are going to create a similar style of dress just for me...made to measure. With a few tweaks here and there, that will make it all my own. A one-of-a-kind!

Have you ever seen a Whirling Turban dress before?! If not, I highly suggest you take a peek at their website for some seriously drool-worthy frocks. I swear, their dresses will transport you back to the late 40's-early 50's birth of the femme fatale. Va-Va-Va-VOOM!

I've been a fan of Katherine Robinson's work for quite a few years. Her dresses have become wardrobe staples of many of the popular modern day pin-ups. Not to mention, she's practically been named the "Official Dress Designer of the Viva Las Vegas Rockabilly Weekender". An event that I try to attend every year.

Not only are Whirling Turban dresses gorgeous, they are extremely well constructed, using the most amazing fabrics and following the stunning lines of Alfred Shaheen, Kamehameha and other "vintage greats". You will not find a more accurate depiction of those curve-hugging, hourglass shaping, bombshell dresses of the 50's than those that come from Katherine's studio.
I am so in awe of her work, and am over-the-moon excited to be wearing a Whirling Turban creation on my wedding day.

Anyone up for some virtual shoe shopping!?!


A Work in Progress

So, here I sit...fingers numb, almost out of beads, eyes straining to focus...
This is hard work!
Just when you think you've strung your last bead, you realize that you aren't even close to having enough "stuff" to fill this thing. This pic shows 150 "stems". Pretty bare 'eh? I figure I still need at least 200 more. I still need to add the buttons in there as well. I'm hoping they will take up loads of space. I also think I might throw together a few small beaded flowers. My poor fingers are worn out!
I've a new found respect for those who DIY, that's for sure!
But even though it's been trying, I wouldn't trade my bouquet for the world. I'm sooooo loving it! Please excuse the fugly pics these past couple of days. My little Mac is a bit under the weather, so I'm forced to use Bo's dreaded laptop. Say it with me now....Ewwwww!


Still no word on my dress. SniffSniff. I'm growing more and more disappointed by the day. Cross your crossables that I hear something soon, okay?


Lazy Saturday DIY

Happy Saturday, my sweets!
Here I sit with a steaming hot cuppa, playing a board game with LB and watching Bob toodle around the house while our teeny dog nips at his ankles. Pure bliss, I tell ya! I love our little family. I swear, sometimes I think we really are pulled from a Norman Rockwell painting.

...And I love lazy Saturdays.

Although, the day is going to have to get started sometime soon. We are headed out to a Halloween party later this evening with some very good friends. Fun! Fun! LB is so excited to see his friends and don his costume.

In wedding related news....
I started on my Vintage Magpie inspired bouquet! It's turning out way better than I ever expected! I can't wait to be able to show you all the final result. Silly me, forgot to take step-by-step photos. Mid-construction I did remember to whip out the camera and snapped a few in progress. It's still no where close to being finished, but I am squealing with excitement every step of the way. I am so in love with it!

I took inspiration from a few of VM's designs and combined them with our color scheme and the random bits and bobs I had on hand. So far, I've included a bunch of old buttons that I swiped from both mine and my recently passed grandmothers button boxes, a few ivory turkey feathers, oodles of Swarovski crystals that I purchased, some broken pearl necklaces that I've been meaning to have restrung and some gorgeous chocolate brown velvet ribbon that I picked up at a local craft store for 50% off. SCORE! I've used a floral foam cone as the base.

This afternoon I need to run out and pick up some floral pics, as I don't think the wires I am stringing the buttons and beads on are going to hold up in the foam without flopping over. I also still need to locate a pretty brooch to add to the handle. Maybe I can find a pretty bird pin at one of the local antique shops.

I had originally intended on making a practice bouquet first just to get the bugs worked out. But, this one is holding up quite nicely, and is turning out so well, that I think this might be THE one!

Poo! For some reason, my pics aren't being very cooperative this morning. I'm going to try to work the bugs out and post them again this afternoon. In the meantime, take my word for it....the bouquet is lovely! The pics are up, but not in my usual format. I'll make them look pretty sometime later...


So Inviting....and a teeny-tiny decor theme idea.

I'm so torn as to how to go about getting people to actually attend our surprisebirthdaypartywedding. On one hand, I just want to send along conventional birthday party invitations and be done with it, but on the other, I sort of feel as if I am misleading my friends and family a wee bit. After all, we actually ARE misleading them...and more than a little bit, but I'm hoping they will be understanding and genuinely happy for us instead of feeling tricked. I also am finding myself feeling more and more like a bride, and wanting a few keepsakes of the day.

What's a confused birthday bride-to-be to do?

In an effort to compromise with myself, I've come up with the following...
I didn't directly come out and SAY it was a surprise BIRTHDAY party, but I think when Bob hand delivers them, he can make mention of it being a birthday celebration and people will assume. Does this sound feasible? Or are these invites a dead give-away? Should we keep the invite as-is but change the text to mention a surprise BIRTHDAY party instead? Are we being horribly dishonest or just telling a teeny white-lie?

Also, it seems we've started to see a bit of a theme developing in our planning. There will be birds...lovebirds! Not over-the-top, everywhere on everything...just a few scattered here and there. I think it suits us.


PLAN B Update...

I've been meaning to pop in all day and give an update, but it's been a crazy here at the office and I haven't had a moment to catch my breath, let alone take a break. I do apologize. You'll forgive me though, right?!? Of course, you will. Because you're sweet like that. KissKiss.

So, here's the new PLAN B.
My dear, sweet, ever-so-adorable Bob is going to throw me a surprise birthday party at our favorite little jazz club. This should entice all invited to attend...because who wouldn't want to attend MMMMYYYY birthday party, right? Right! Of course, the free swanky dinner, all you can drink booze, and promise of cake might not hurt my chances of getting everyone to the "church" on time.

Guests are all going to arrive sometime around 6:45pm-7-ish. Bob and I will show up around 7:15. After the big surprise (haha!) and we are seated, properly fed and tipsy, our server (who happens to be in on the plan) will present us with a birthday cupcake with a candle. At which time, it's customary in my family to make a wish and blow it out. Someone always pipes up and asks what you wished for, to which I will reply with some sort of quip about how Bob and I should be tying the knot. Then, our dear friend Reverend Horton (names have been changed to protect the innocent remember) will stand up and proceed to marry us in a quick, but sweet ceremony. The cake will be ushered in on a cart and served for dessert. Hopefully everyone will be properly surprised and genuinely happy for us.

Cocktails and appetizers at a different restaurant may still be happening if we can swing it. We're scrapping the idea of having dessert at a separate venue as the particular place we had in mind is closed on Friday nights. Also, the pastry chef at our dinner venue is fantastic and they have been more than easy to work with. I have NO doubts whatsoever that he will come up with a cake that we love. We also may take the party to a local saloon to kick up our heels for a bit afterwards...sort of an after-party. Bob previously worked there as a bouncer, so I'm sure we would get VIP treatment, not to mention it would be fun to have a sort of parade as we walked through downtown.

I do have some smaller details nailed down and I cannot wait to show you all. Unfortunately, that's all the time I have for now, but I'll be back tomorrow with oodles of wedding porn for you all to fawn over. Squeal with me now....EEEEeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!


Traditional Bouquet Alternatives Revisited....

I'm obsessed with nontraditional bouquets at the moment. It's like a disease, I can't stop Googling....and while those I posted a few days ago are absolutely lovely, I've come across so many other creative ideas that I just had to share. Who knows...maybe a few of these pretties will inspire another bride to go with an alternative to the traditional. Don't get me wrong, flowers are classic and lovely. I adore them myself. But, with so many options out there I'm having a hard time choosing my favorites.

Hopefully by the end of the week, I'll have some sort of version of my own DIY nosegay to post, as well as a dress update. In the meantime, check out the websites of some of these swoon-worth bouquets.
How sticky sweet are these button bouquets?! Can't you just imagine them incorporated into a country inspired or picnic themed wedding? These are from Blue Kitty Co. on etsy. C-U-T-E-cutecutecute!

And get a load of these paper Magnolias from UniqueLeighCreated, who is also on etsy. I think they would look amazing with a more contemporary, minimalist or even mod style event.

These feather bouquets would be perfect for a winter wedding. This first version is from Hats N Stuff, which happens to be a UK vendor. They have oodles of other vintage inspired/alternative wedding accessories as well. And their prices appear to be rather reasonable for those on a budget.

The pic on the right is from florist David McConkey. Yet another UK vendor. Whywohwhy am I coming across so many wedding related ideas and inspiration from across the pond? I suppose that even if I am no where close to alot of these great vendors, that they will be flattered to know that I love their work and that they have inspired others. After all, imitation is the sincerest form of flatter, am I right? I AM right, aren't I?

I'm a bit embarrassed to admit that I stumbled across Heirloom Wedding Bouquets many years ago while planning theweddinginwhichimarriedmyson'sfatheranditwasn'tmeanttobe. For some reason I saved the link and am happy to report that even after all these years, they are still in business and handcrafting some of the most beautiful, unique, life-like flowers I've come across. They also make sparkling crystal bouquets, cake toppers, hair accessories...and more.
So, while I'm still over-the-moon in love with my inspiration bouquet, I'm having oodles of fun perusing unique and unconventional wedding ideas. I hope a few of these pictures will have inspired others to think outside of the norm when planning their own special day.
Oh, and I just realized that I never posted about the modifications we've made to PLAN B. Unfortunately, I am out of time for today, so you'll have to wait 'til tomorrow for the update and revisions. Happy Monday my dears!


Is it all suppose to be this easy? WARNING...this is a bit rambling.

Not that I'm complaining...AT ALL, but from what I remember, wedding planning is suppose to be complicated. Isn't it? Full of appointments and planners and decisions. Aren't I suppose to be lugging around a ginormous binder full of contracts and clippings?

I spent a few hours yesterday on the phone. In that short span of time, I managed to book our officiant, cocktail/appetizer venue, as well as reserved the actual dinner party/wedding reception venue. I spoke with a pastry chef and went over the details for our cake. So...


I also purchased alot of materials to get started on my Vintage Magpie inspired bouquet. I can't wait to begin putting it all together. Just ogling the pile of sparklies and ribbon is making me wish February was right around the corner.

Bob and I do still need to decide whether or not to just have guests order off the restaurants main dinner menu, or if we're going to do a more limited menu based on the restaurant's current offerings at the time. The bar bill will be an open tab that we will pay at the end of the evening. The actual design and flavor of the cake needs to be chosen as well. So I suppose there is really still alot to do. Oh, and the event coordinator at our dinner venue is such a hoot! I think she was just as excited as Bob and I are when I told her of our plans. Love, love, love her! I can tell she is going to be super fun to work with and totally on board with our vision of what the evening should be like.

And here I thought all I had left to do was throw on a pretty party dress and show up!

Speaking of "THE Dress", I still have no good news to report. Darn it. I promise you'll be the first to find out just as soon as I get the word.

And just so you know, it's not that I don't want to link to the local vendors we have chosen and share all the lovely wedding porn I've collected from them. Bob and I really don't want to compromise on the surprise factor by leaving an internet trail and having it picked up by any of our net savvy friends or family. Seeing as you and I are becoming superfast best friends, I didn't want you to think that I was keeping secrets from you. ;) It's seriously killing me not to be able to share.

So, while I'm rambling does anyone have any ideas on how to slip a photographer into the mix? Our officiant happens to be a friend/acquaintance, so his being there won't be in question, but the photographer might tip off our guests. Or am I just reading too much into this, and most people hire photographers for family birthday parties? We do want to have a few photos to remember the day by. Mostly photo journalistic, as we aren't much into posed formals.


Tying up a few loose ends...

I'm sorry for not returning to post yesterday. I've had a slight glitch with my dress plan, and I didn't want to post the final decision until it all fell properly into place. So for now, I'm still holding off until I get word from the Powers that Be, that all is well and my dream dress will become a reality. I'm so disappointed, but I'm sure it will all work out for the best. I promise to update just as soon as I receive any new news.

On a happier note...
February 29, 2008
Yes, it's a leap year. And a Friday, but we love the idea!

And even more exciting?!?!?
We're going with PLAN B!!!
Bob and I couldn't be happier. It was all decided over a hot bowl of Albondigas soup at one of my favorite Mexican restaurants, during a spontaneous lunch date. The plan has been modified a tad, but overall the idea is the same.

So, WOW! It all seems so much more "real" all of the sudden. Could this mean an actual proposal might be right around the corner?!?! It's going to be harder and harder for me to keep this under wraps. I'm SOOOO not good at keeping secrets.

So, I'm off to call an acquaintance of ours who has recently become ordained, as well as find out how to secure all of our venues. Eeeeeee!!!!! Let the planning begin!


Traditional Bouquet Alternatives

Being quite the girlie-girl, I just so happen to love flowers. I do have my favorites...Casablanca Lilies, Gardenias, and Chocolate Cosmos just to name a few. However, in my quest to find the perfect bouquet, I stumbled across so many alternatives to traditional florals, and decided that I simply must post a few. So, while I'm still undecided on whether or not to even have flowers, I'm saving these gorgeous pics and links for future inspiration.

Can you get over how beautiful and realistic looking this bouquet is?!?! Can you believe it's made from coffee filters?! Cassie Mae Chappell is the artist behind these lovelies. Check out her website to see more of her amazing work. Seriously...you have to see it to believe it. It's that good.

A long time ago, in a land far, far away, I once taught myself how to make French beaded flowers. While mine were pretty, they wouldn't have even come close to the intricately detailed creations I've found lately. I know first hand how much time and attention to detail goes into creating just one bloom. I cannot even imagine the effort and genius it would take to create a bouquet as pretty as this one. The Hibiscus bouquet is from Forever Flowers on etsy. The Pink Dahlia is also found on etsy, created by EmeraldArts. There are also quite a few crafty people making and selling beaded flowers on eBay.

Vintage Magpie is the creative genius behind these swoon-worthy crystal and feather bouquets. I'm currently coveting that velvet wrapped nosegay. I think it would look so sweet with my vintage inspired ensemble.
And speaking of my ensemble, a decision has been made as to "THE Dress". But, you'll have to tune in tomorrow for the skinny.


Oh la la...la lalalala lahhhh.....


So do you think any one of these might make my dear, sweet Bob a little hot under the collar?

Boy...I'm all over the place these days...from cupcakes to underpinnings! Although, I'd better lay off the sugar infused posts if I want to look enticing in one of these hot numbers.

There is a chance that my beloved and I might be in Las Vegas sometime over the Christmas holidays and I believe we may just have to pay a little visit to Agent Provocateur. Being the girlie-girl that I am, I simply adore pretty lingerie and they have some of the most beautiful things. I'm sure there has got to be other shops in Sin City to find well-made frillies. Does anyone have any suggestions as to where? I'm also a big fan of La Perla, but there new stuff just isn't blowing my skirt up these days.

I had to include this garter pic, because I adore it! It's from Angel Threads. Isn't it lovely?


Mini Cakes, Cupcakes and Croquembouche...oh my!

If I don't blow my diet today, I swear it will be a miracle. You see, I've done nothing but search photo sites for my latest daily obsession....dessert! YUM! There are some beautiful and elaborate confections being created these days, that's for sure. But, in all my hunting, I've fallen in love. With all things sweet and tiny. And no, I don't mean LB...although he is pretty sweet, he's taken to growing alot lately and is no longer all that little anymore. Poo. I'm talking about CUPCAKES! and mini cakes too. Oh, and croquembouche as well. They are tiny once you pull them apart, so in my opinion, they still count. ;)

We have the absolute cutest little authentic French bakery right here in town, who I'm almost certain can whip something up that rivals the above inspiration photos. I'd be more than happy to hire the artist behind those lovely little cupcakes, but sadly she is not local...in fact, she's all the way in Australia. Aren't they gorgeous! I found her here on Flickr, or you can visit her website at www.lecupcake.com.
Is that your tummy or mine that I hear rumbling?!?!


Random ramblings...

Well hello there! I hope everyone had a fantastic and restful weekend. I know I did! Other than a couple of family events on Saturday, the rest of the weekend was spent indoors, nuggled up in my jammies pouring over magazines and catching up on movies. Pure bliss. It was much needed, that's for sure.

As far as wedding/elopement planning goes, not much going on really. My newest obsessions are writing vows and planning our Alaskan honeymoon. Oh...and cupcakes, but those will have to wait for tomorrow's post.

So how on earth does one put into words, all the love and emotions they feel, when words simply don't seem to be enough to tell the other person what they mean to you? I'm having a really hard time with this. I've read through numerous couple's vows on just about every wedding website imaginable in order to be inspired, and while they are all soooo lovely, I can't seem to get anything of my own down on paper. I do realize that I have quite a bit of time to work on it, but honestly, this is one of the most important and personal aspects of wedding planning in my opinion. I've started a bedside journal so that I can document our everyday lives, hoping that this might spark a few ideas. I'm also going to drop a few links to here, here, here and here, so that I can keep track of some of the beautiful words that I've come across in my searching. Can anyone recommend any books or articles that might help me find the words to tell Bob just how much his love and support mean to me? I do have a book on how to write love letters, that I've never even cracked the cover on. I think it might be a good time to dust it off. I'm also planning a trip to the library in the near future.

So, yes, it has been decided, we're off to Alaska in September of 2008 for our honeymoon. I'm sure we will be taking a brief mini-moon just after our elopement, but are saving our pennies for a 5 day independent land tour of the Kenai Peninsula, followed by a 7 day Southbound cruise through the inside passage. I've been dying to see Alaska, for as long as I can remember and with Bob being an avid fisherman and overall lover of the outdoors, it seems the perfect choice. It will also be nice to have an active, adventurous few days, followed by a pampering and relaxing cruise. So far, we've decided on a few excursions... bear watching, a Harley ride, a drive to Emerald Lake, dog sledding and a glacier landing flightseeing trip. We'd also love to catch a glimpse of the aurora borealis. As the dates get closer, I'm sure we'll nail down the specifics of the land portion, but I'm definitely anticipating a stay at A Cabin on the Cliff in Seward.

It kills me to think that we are still a year away from our honeymoon, but all the best things are worth waiting for, right? Right?!


What's that on your head?!?

a Wig!?!
No....actually it's some sort of fascinator/cocktail hat/birdcage veil.
Sorry, I couldn't resist. I'm a child of the 80's and adore the B-52's.

Since I'm pretty much sold on the idea of a vintage style dress, and I'm not a traditional veil girl AT ALL, and since we all know I'm definitely not virginous (is that a real word?), I've decided I'm going to wear something similar to one of these...

Oh, and did I mention that I was going to DIY?! I started googling this morning, and it's become a full blown obsession. I'm putting in an order from Judith M. Hats & Millinery Supplies tomorrow. Sure, you're probably saying to yourself "This is the bride with no wedding date, no dress and not even a proper proposal, but she knows she's wearing a hat?!?".

And to that I say
I pride myself on being a girl who knows how to accessorize. And I've been just dying to use the word "Pshaw!", but that's hardly the point. And if I become a sticky mess of hot glue and feathers, I can always call in the experts at Unveiled Bridal Designs. Check out Julie M...GOR-GEOUS!


"Mrs. Delilah"...has such a lovely ring....

So where were we? Ahhh...RINGS!
Where do I even begin? I'm famous for being indecisive, but when it comes to jewelry, I am a perfectionist...I like what I like and it's VERRRYYY specific. Poor Bob. He will never be able to surprise me with the gift of bling. Okay, just typing the word "bling" is cracking me up! Blingblingblingbling...

I really don't wear much jewelry, if any, on a daily basis. I have a few "signature" pieces, like the ever popular Return to Tiffany bracelet, my Femme Metale Goddess Ring and my diamond solitaire earrings. I also adore the few Victorians rings I wear on dressier occasions, but other than that, my jewelry wardrobe is pretty bare. I would call my style "basic with a vintage twist".

Being the hopeless romantic that I am, I've always been drawn to the significance of eternity rings. I actually had saved and saved before LB was born to buy myself one to mark the momentous occasion, but times got tight and I wound up using that money to survive once the ex left. I still dream of owning one and cannot think of a better occasion to wear that sparklie little band, than as part of my wedding set. I have a few different ideas on how to incorporate the eternity ring...either as part of my engagement ring, or on it's own paired with a solitaire. I also swooning over a few French posey rings that I've come across recently. How sweet are these?!? They are reproductions of the real medieval rings that are now housed in museums. There are oodles of them around the world with different sayings in many languages. the one at the top left says "a ma vie de coeur entier' in French which translates to "my whole heart for my whole life", and the ring on the bottom right reads "vous et nul autre"...You and no other. They can be purchased here.
These are Bob's top contenders at the moment. He tries to be all easy going about the ring thing, constantly stating that as long as it's white gold/platinum and a wider style band, he'll be happy. But, when I show him examples of simple bands I really don't get much reaction. At first he was smitten with alot of the Norse rune rings that are out there....I even caught him googling them once, so that style isn't out of the question, but then I came across that skull band and it quickly became his favorite. I love it too, but then got to thinking about whether or not it's too "trendy", or if it really speaks of his old school punk-ish personality. The ring on the bottom left is actually a monogram ring that would be made up of our initials, and the bottom right is a hammered finish platinum band. Personally, I think all of his ring selections are great...I just wish he'd make a decision so I could go out and purchase one! I've already decided on the inscription, but I'm keeping that a secret until I place that ring on his finger. I'm hoping he'll do the same with mine.


No, I'm not the Runaway Bride...

Just got a little caught up in a project at work, as well as the addition of a Partners in Learning class at LB's school had me a bit short on blog time. Add to that, the fact that I'm a bit frustrated with the whole layout of the blog and cannot seem to figure out how to widen the viewing space and I become a tad flustered with the whole thing and keep putting off my posts. But, those are pretty silly excuses for leaving you hanging isn't it? I promise to be a better blog buddy. Pinky swear. Seriously.

I'll be back tomorrow with more wedding/elopement porn.

Up next? Rings!!! Eeeeeeeee! I just KNOW you're as excited as I am!!!


Just the facts ma'am...

Okay, so even though we are still up in the air about the actual specifics of the wedding itself, there are a few ideas that I do have swimming through my head that can be nailed down ahead of time. And since no one wanted to out themselves and give us an opinion one way or the other regarding our elopement/surprise wedding plans, I'm going to have to stoop to a new low and try to draw you all out of the shadows with wedding porn.

My ensemble:
Since I am already a huge fan of vintage fashion, and am obsessed with the whole 40's-50's lifestyle, I am hoping wear a dress that really has that old, glamorous, pin-up vibe. Fortunately for me, there are oodles of designers knocking off some of the greatest fashion houses of that era. And while I'd kill for an original Emma Domb party frock, I really don't have the figure to fit most of those that I've found. Locating everyday vintage clothing in averages sizes is hard enough...finding a cute formal dress is virtually impossible! Especially for those who are "big of boob". Thank you indiebride.com for that term. It's hysterical!

Here are a few of my top contenders...

This dress is pure perfection. It was love at first sight. Unfortunately, it's from a UK designer who only sells to one boutique here in the states. Even more unfortunate, is the fact that the boutique is in Virginia. I, of course, am not anywhere close to Virginia. I did put in a call, and they are willing to order the dress for me however, so all is not lost. I also found a dressmaker willing to re-create it for me, but I'm having a few reservations about going that route. I'm envisioning pairing it with a short, angled birdcage veil or some sort of rhinestone fascinator type bauble.

I'm also all mushy over this dress. I haven't gone as far as trying to find it locally, but you better bet your britches, I will be. How could I not?!? It's a stunner! Plus, I think I could accessorize with a sweet birdcage veil. Not to mention, I already have the most perfect lucite box purse that looks as if it were made for this dress. If I can find some cool lucite shoes...Me-ow!

I also think the pink bow image could be carried over into other areas like the cake, or announcements.

And this is my 3rd runner-up. I actually took this photo myself while strolling the streets of Paris almost 2 years ago. I was there nursing a broken heart actually, so taking pics of wedding dresses was the very last thing on my mind, when I spotted this boutique window. I'm quite a believer in destiny, so maybe there is a reason I didn't toss this file in the trash when sorting my holiday snapshots. Now, I'm glad I didn't! Isn't it dreamy? Something about this little vintage inspired suit just screams "lets run away and get married!". I adore they whole idea of those sweet get-away outfits from the 50's. I would think I could have a local seamstress whip up something similiar dontcha think? Of course, I'd complete the look with gloves and pill-box hat, because, really, the accessories really do make the outfit. Do you think a pair of nude colored seamed stockings would be a bit much?

For my beloved Bob:
Woot. Woo. There's nothing I love more than seeing my man all dressed up! He's one handsome devil during the everyday, but put him in a suit and I'm swooning. Not to mention the fact that he works a pretty rugged job that requires jeans and work shirts. On the occasion that he really does get all shined and polished, he looks extra edible. This is just a smattering of photos that I've clipped in hopes of finding something that appeals to him.

I'm loving that old Hollywood look of the white or ivory dinner jacket and and black pants. It actually reminds me of my parent's wedding photos...so classic. Very Cary Grant. Of course, I'm also drawn to pinstripes, but in a charcoal grey or navy. I'm NOT a big fan of the zoot suit however, and I am worried about stripes coming across as pimp-ish. Is that even a word? Bob also is a hat lover, so a nice fedora or bowler will definitely be in order.


Your mission...should you choose to accept it...

Is to help us decide what sort of wedding we really want to have. I'd really love it if maybe a few readers would come out of lurkdom and post their opinions. Aww, come on...I know you have great taste and I trust you 100%. And don't get all shy and pretend you're not out there. I don't have a stat counter on this thing for nothing.

I have my days when I feel as though we should just run over to the county courthouse, sign the papers and have this entire wedding thing over with. Parts of me just want our lives to go on without any of the traditional wedding hoopla. And then there are the other days, when I spend hours pouring over wedding websites reading recaps, longing to wear a pretty dress, to feel like the most beautiful girl in the room, to share that almost heartbursting feeling with my parents and friends....

Is it possible to have the best of both worlds? That's the question I've been trying to answer. Hopefully you will be able to shed some light on the situation and help us out. Here are the ceremony ideas we've come up with so far. You might want to grab a drink, put on your pj's and settle in. This might take awhile...

PLAN A: Viva Las Vegas
I think this idea is almost what is expected of us. More than a few close friends and family have asked when we are going to run off to Vegas by ourselves and get married. I'll admit, the sentimental aspect of it is really appealing... to go back to where it all began. In the Little Chapel of the Flowers, where we first giggled through our vows like a couple of teenagers (well, we really WERE teenagers, what do you expect?!?). Spend a night or two alone together in sin city, before heading home and making an announcement either printed and mailed, or over cocktails, appetizers, and (maybe) cake at a local bistro.


We get our teeny tiny, just the two of us ceremony.

Elvis can marry us! We got married the first time on Elvis' birthday.



It's VEGAS!!!

Honestly, it is a bit corny, and since the first time we were married it didn't work out so well...well, you get what I'm saying. Not that I'm superstitious or anything...

There is no HUGE surprise factor since we'd have to send the LB over to my parents house for the weekend, and they are pretty smart people, who would most likely figure it out.

PLAN B: Progressive Dinner
We had this crazy idea to round up our friends and family (about 15 people total) and invite them to a progressive dinner party under the assumption that it was either an engagement celebration or a birthday dinner (my birthday is in March, hence the January or March time frame).

We would start out having appetizers and drinks at one restaurant (a swanky little jazz club) where Bob would announce our engagement. Then we'd head down the street to another restaurant (a cute bistro owned by the same group as the jazz club) for a celebratory dinner. Once dinner was complete we'd head out again, to another little cafe (one of my favorite little French bakeries in town) where we would actually get married and cut the cake. Luckily, all of these establishments are in the same block and 2 are owned by the same company, so it would make the entire evening flow quite well. Very unexpected, but fun, I think. Maybe? What do you think? Crazy and fun, or just plain crazy?

All of this would have to be meticulously executed, which I don't have a problem with at all. I'd still get to plan a soiree, AND we'd have our teeny, intimate surprise wedding. The best of both worlds. My only hesitations would be the fact that I'd most likely have to have a headcount for the dinner and guests may be more likely to unexpectedly cancel at the last minute if they thought it was a casual dinner party. Also, I'm a bit worried we might catch my parents off-guard. Even though I'm sure they wouldn't object, I'm still a daddy's girl at heart and always seeking to win my mother's approval and do things the "right" way. Have I mentioned that I'm going on 36 years old. Sheesh.

PLAN C: The elopement and dinner package.
In this instance, we would elope...somewhere. Then invite friends and family to dinner that evening and tell them all as a group. We could still have a pretty cake and get dressed up for a festive night on the town, which appeals to me greatly, but wouldn't have to get married in front of an audience or have to put much planning into an actual wedding ceremony. We'd most likely do it at the same bistro as the progressive dinner, as it is one of our favorite local eateries. They have the most darling little bar area that I've seen reserved for small gatherings.

PLAN D: Go North to Alaska - SCRAPPED.
We have a 14 day delayed honeymoon to Alaska planned for September 2008 and briefly thought about doing this. While it seems pretty exciting, there is no guarantee that we would get to fly due to bad weather and their backup plan is to get married in a park, which I'm sure is quite beautiful, but the whole idea behind getting married on top of a glacier is that it's unforgetable and intimate. A park seems like such a let down when you're expecting a helicopter to whisk you off to the tippy top of a glacier, doesn't it? Not that there is anything wrong with parks,, but I don't want to fork over that kind of moola and then be dissappointed on my wedding day if things don't work out. And besides...September seems SOOOO far away. We really don't want to wait that long.


So there you have it. If you've read this far, I applaud you! So what do you think? If you were two crazy in love kids, with a bit of a spontanious streak, lookin' to get hitched, what would you do? We're open to other suggestions as well, or modifications to the plans above. At this point, any advice would be greatly appreciated.


The Lead Characters...

The Bride:
That would be me. I'm Delilah. 35, full-time working, mother of 1 adorable kid and 1 hyper-active small dog. I live in my fantasy tree-house, downtown in the historic district of a small Western town. If I could travel 12 months out of the year, that would be just fine by me, but I have a feeling the boss at my "real" job might frown upon me taking so much time off. I also freelance in my spare (haha!) time. I enjoy 1950's pulp fiction books, old movies, jazz standards and collecting all sorts of vintage cocktail items....from dresses and martini shakers, to chalkware wedding cake toppers.


My Beau:
That would be Bob. He's 37, employed (horray!), smart, patient, witty and handsome as all get out. I'm biased, of course. ;) A little bit country, yet a little bit punk-rock 'n roll...he's the perfect mix of sweet, all-American charm, tangled up with just the right amount of bad boy deliciousness. He's a sucker for all things golf or fishing related, and (secretly) adores small dogs. He knows all my deep, dark secrets and loves me anyway, cooks a mean steak and gives great foot massages. Oh, and did I mention he was handsome?


The Tiny Person:
The Little Bear (L.B.) ...5 years old and definitely ALL boy. I cannot imagine my life before him. Cheesy, I know, but he really is my bestest friend and the sweetest kid I've ever met. Cute as a button, and quite the mama's boy (and no, I'm not complaining...I love it). He and Bob are like two peas in a pod, which really does melt my heart. He loves hockey, art and all things dinosaur or pirate related.


I'm sure as this blog gets rolling, I'll be secretly introducing you to a few friends and family members as well. Lucky you. Don't be nervous...they'll totally love you as much as I do.

On a side note, I think later on, I am going to change the look of this blog and add a few photos. It's always nice to put a face with a name, don't you think?

Why a surprise wedding you ask? Well...

After having not one, but two big blowout, break the bank weddings, I've come to the conclusion that practically going into bankruptcy in order to marry does not guarantee you will live happily ever after. Yes, it is always nice to have loved ones surrounding you as you profess your undying love, but do you really need the Martha Stewart perfectly folded tissue packets or flowers with unpronouncable names imported from exotic locations? I think not.

I'm quite drawn to the idea of eloping simply because, well, quite honestly, I'm a little embarrassed that at 35 years of age, I'm walking down the aisle for the 3rd time (granted, I'll be doing it twice with the same groom, but whatever...). I see no need for the over the top, white gown-matchymatchy attendants-church wedding. All the formality coupled with comments from our families about how this all seems so familiar just doesn't really appeal to me. At this point, I'd like nothing more than for Bob and I to find somewhere peaceful, romantic and quiet to make our vows to eachother. Oh, how I wish we lived in a state where you could declare yourselves married! Doesn't that seem like the perfect solution? To me, it would be heaven. Swoon.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not at all against celebrating our upcoming nuptuals with family and friends. I've just learned from past experiences, that this time, I will be remembering those details of wedding planning that cannot be seen or held in your hand, but only felt. I truly am a big sap, if you haven't figured that out already.


The Proposal...

Well, to be honest, there really hasn't been an official proposal as of yet. We talk of getting married on a daily basis, have been shopping for rings (a simple round, brilliant solitaire with eternity band for me...something thick and platinum for him), narrowed down a time frame (January or March of 2008)...even booked a honeymoon (Alaska...Eeeee! I get so excited just thinking about it!). So what's the hold up you ask?!?!

That's what I'd like to know!

Seriously though, I did one day mention to Bob that even though I'd been married before, I'd never received a "proper" proposal. What I meant by that was having someone profess their undying love and devotion, while dropping to one knee and begging me for the honour of becoming my husband. The whole idea sounds so sticky sweet romantic, and I truly am an old fashioned type of gal, and as cheeky as it sounds, I feel as though I deserve all the bells and whistles.

Now before you get all soapbox-ish on me, I know all about the fact that this is the year 2007 and we've come along way bay-bee, but I want what I want. Bob knows this, respects this and even though in the throes of passion proposes to me on a nightly basis, I have no doubt that he will do it up right when the time comes. In the meantime, I'm happy just knowing that I am once again going to be his Mrs. Bob, no matter what.


The Backstory...

For starters, Bob and I are no strangers to wedding planning. In fact, we've both been married before...more times than either of us probably cares to admit...to each other even. You see, Bob and I are childhood sweethearts. From a small town where if you didn't marry right out of high school and start popping out your next of kin, you were considered freakish or destined to become an old maid. So, with stars in our eyes, love in our hearts and lust in our...well, you get the idea....we headed to Vegas and eloped at a very young age. To make a long story short, once my parents found out, they were devastated. How could their only daughter run away and get marrr--ieeee---ddd, without her daddy giving her away or her mother planning the biggest shindig their small town had ever seen? Well, needless to say, a "real" wedding was in order, so 9 months later we had a big church wedding with all the trimmings, followed by the biggest, fanciest reception. And while we did live happily ever after for a bit, eventually we grew up. Which also means we grew apart. And divorced. A first for my side of the family. I wasn't proud.

So Bob and I went our separate ways, for oh, about 8 years or so. I moved to a big city 2 states away. He...well, he moved to a different big city. We both moved on, met new significant others, and both remarried. During this time, we had hit and miss contact with each other, mostly through friends and family members or the occasional secret rendezvous (pre-other significant other marriages...and who could blame us, the sex really was good even if we did hate each others guts). Bob and his new wife had no children. I had a baby, who will from now on be referred to as Little bear, or LB for short, who is now a big 5 year old kindergartner. Time sure did fly, that's for sure.

Fast forward alot of years, alot of tears, and alot of playing the what-if game. My second marriage crumbled, as did Bob's. Now, neither of us are proud of this fact, but we are both quite good at internet stalking and at different times had sent each other messages that were never received for one reason or another...until April 11th, 2007. Lo and behold, Bob's picture popped up after much searching and with knots in my stomach, I sent him a quick email to say hello. He replied almost immediately and the rest, as they say, is history. We've been pretty much inseparable ever since.

Now, I know we may seem prime candidates for a sweeps week episode of Dr. Phil, and that "an ex is an ex for a reason". But in our defense, we are both MUCH older now, and most definitely wiser. .We've talked through most, if not all of our prior "issues", and have agreed to go back into this relationship with an open mind, heart and 100% honesty. I'll be the first to admit, as a single mother, who thought she was destined to live the rest of her days alone raising her son, Bob's re-appearance into my life has been nothing short of a miracle. He is the father I'd always imagined for my son. The partner in crime I'd been dreaming of since I was a tiny girl, and the man I'd hoped and prayed for every night, before I finally given into the fact, that my dreamboat was never coming. I no longer take him for granted, and waking up in his arms every morning is one of the best gifts I've ever received. I am now a firm believer in second chances.

Stay tuned...I'll be posting photos and ideas soon. Now that you and I are practically cyberspace BFF, I'm going to need alot of advice and help in pulling off Bob and I's surprise wedding.